older adopted kids RAD

How to Stay Connected to Kids Not Living at Home

Maybe your kids are young adults and finding their way in the world. Maybe you have a child who needed an out-of-home placement. You may have left off on good terms or maybe you’re both hurt and angry. We’ve actually had all of that happen with all the feels that go with it. No matter […]

older child adoption

More Lessons in Older Child Adoption

I’ve been chatting with a lot of moms who are a sort of crossroads with their older adopted child. There is hurt, resentment, and bewilderment from both sides. The kids are rejecting their family in as many ways possible. The parents are wondering where they went wrong. We’ve been there. In October 2015, we were […]

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An Open Letter to Trauma

A lot of moms (myself included) start to see their child as the adversary when bad behavior persists. One of the most helpful visuals that I learned when becoming a parent trainer was to stay on the same side as your child. Instead of imagining you against your child and his aggression, think about you […]

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2 Easy Ways to Increase Patience and Focus

If you’re anything like me, you get to the end of the day and feel like all you did was yell at kids. Most of the items on your to-do list remain unchecked. You wish you had more patience, and you wish you could focus enough to accomplish something. Anything. I also have a child […]