Unfortunately the horror stories are all that ever make the news. The truth is that they only represent a small fraction of cases. If you go through a qualified agency, your chances plummet even more.
The process can be long but it can be short. It just depends (you'll here this a lot if you do more research). Ours was 365 days from start to pick up. (We still have to finalize). I have a lot more to say on this but little space. Feel free to contact me here or on CM if you want all the gory details 🙂
We definitely put a lot of prayer and thought and discussion into our decision since we already had two biological children. We decided not to foster this time around for their sake (but I have great friends who foster with young kids and they love it). We didn't want the child to disrupt our birthorder (in our case that meant adopting a child younger than 3). Most importantly, we included our children in our decision and process. We explained to them how important we thought adoption was and they were totally on board. We talked a lot about the process as we went throught it and then took them with us to pick up Ty in April. Although Ty has needed some extra attention, they LOVE him so much that it hasn't mattered. We've also tried to be extra sensitive to giving them each specialized, individual attention so they don't feel completely overlooked. Also, remember that you could end up with a biological special needs child who would require more attention than one you adopt. We just do what we need to do and try to remain as obedient to God's calling as possible.
Hope that all makes sense. Like I said, I'd love to chat more if you want. Just let me know 🙂
Happy thinking…
Isn't adoption expensive? I worry I won't ever have the funds to adopt.
Isn't it a long process that often ends in disappointment? (By that, I mean, adoptions never materializing. We've all heard the horror stories).
My biggest concern with adopting in the future has to do with the children I've got already. I feel like I'd only be comfortable adopting an infant, for fear of bringing a child home who has been traumatized by parents/caregivers, and therefore would either need more attention than I could give (without being pulled in other directions by other children) or perhaps have issues that might somehow affect my children negatively. I hope I am explaining my concern correctly. This is what scares me about taking in foster children or something of that nature. Did you wrestle with similar feelings about adopting? (Perhaps it is just me…)
Thanks in advance for taking the time to answer my questions.
]]>Unfortunately the horror stories are all that ever make the news. The truth is that they only represent a small fraction of cases. If you go through a qualified agency, your chances plummet even more.
The process can be long but it can be short. It just depends (you'll here this a lot if you do more research). Ours was 365 days from start to pick up. (We still have to finalize). I have a lot more to say on this but little space. Feel free to contact me here or on CM if you want all the gory details 🙂
We definitely put a lot of prayer and thought and discussion into our decision since we already had two biological children. We decided not to foster this time around for their sake (but I have great friends who foster with young kids and they love it). We didn't want the child to disrupt our birthorder (in our case that meant adopting a child younger than 3). Most importantly, we included our children in our decision and process. We explained to them how important we thought adoption was and they were totally on board. We talked a lot about the process as we went throught it and then took them with us to pick up Ty in April. Although Ty has needed some extra attention, they LOVE him so much that it hasn't mattered. We've also tried to be extra sensitive to giving them each specialized, individual attention so they don't feel completely overlooked. Also, remember that you could end up with a biological special needs child who would require more attention than one you adopt. We just do what we need to do and try to remain as obedient to God's calling as possible.
Hope that all makes sense. Like I said, I'd love to chat more if you want. Just let me know 🙂
Happy thinking…
Isn't adoption expensive? I worry I won't ever have the funds to adopt.
Isn't it a long process that often ends in disappointment? (By that, I mean, adoptions never materializing. We've all heard the horror stories).
My biggest concern with adopting in the future has to do with the children I've got already. I feel like I'd only be comfortable adopting an infant, for fear of bringing a child home who has been traumatized by parents/caregivers, and therefore would either need more attention than I could give (without being pulled in other directions by other children) or perhaps have issues that might somehow affect my children negatively. I hope I am explaining my concern correctly. This is what scares me about taking in foster children or something of that nature. Did you wrestle with similar feelings about adopting? (Perhaps it is just me…)
Thanks in advance for taking the time to answer my questions.
]]>Because my parents did a good job of exposing us (I'm the oldest of 3, all adopted from Korea, non biologically related) to the Korean culture and encouraged us to explore it on our own, I feel relatively more prepared to help Ty appreciate his culture. We use simple Korean phrases and words and cook lots of Korean food. We are fortunate to know a lot about his story so we'll share that as we feel appropriate. We already talk about his foster family with him through pictures and video.
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