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Comments on: Through the Eyes of a Traumatized Child https://www.thecorkboardonline.com/2013/03/through-the-eyes-of-a-traumatized-child/ Thu, 18 Apr 2013 02:14:06 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.5.8 By: stephanie https://www.thecorkboardonline.com/2013/03/through-the-eyes-of-a-traumatized-child/#comment-50388 Thu, 18 Apr 2013 02:14:06 +0000 http://www.thecorkums.com/?p=4617#comment-50388 We’d also love to feature this submission on WAGI. Thanks so much for sending it our way!
Stephanie
co-administrator of WAGI

]]> By: Kelly Raudenbush https://www.thecorkboardonline.com/2013/03/through-the-eyes-of-a-traumatized-child/#comment-41614 Thu, 28 Mar 2013 01:38:10 +0000 http://www.thecorkums.com/?p=4617#comment-41614 Melissa, what a good summary of why we need trust based parenting for our kids. Thanks for sharing.

]]> By: Amy https://www.thecorkboardonline.com/2013/03/through-the-eyes-of-a-traumatized-child/#comment-41445 Wed, 27 Mar 2013 15:01:12 +0000 http://www.thecorkums.com/?p=4617#comment-41445 My daughter was 6 when we brought her home from Eastern Europe. She’s been home almost 21 months and I am just now beginning to embrace the fact that I am now a trauma momma. I signed up for adoptive momma. I signed up for CP momma. I didn’t realize I was also signing up for trauma momma. Thank you for posting this.

]]> By: Beth Templeton https://www.thecorkboardonline.com/2013/03/through-the-eyes-of-a-traumatized-child/#comment-41404 Wed, 27 Mar 2013 13:24:12 +0000 http://www.thecorkums.com/?p=4617#comment-41404 It is very helpful to understand these realities, and to be reminded again of what is motivating some behaviors. I appreciated reading again about trauma. Thanks!

]]> By: Melissa https://www.thecorkboardonline.com/2013/03/through-the-eyes-of-a-traumatized-child/#comment-39436 Fri, 22 Mar 2013 02:49:55 +0000 http://www.thecorkums.com/?p=4617#comment-39436 In reply to Stacee.

Stacee,
Thanks for weighing in. As a child who experienced the foster care system, how do you wish you had been parented differently?

]]> By: Stacee https://www.thecorkboardonline.com/2013/03/through-the-eyes-of-a-traumatized-child/#comment-39367 Thu, 21 Mar 2013 23:18:19 +0000 http://www.thecorkums.com/?p=4617#comment-39367 Interesting that you claim you’re not making excuses for your child’s behaviour — because it totally sounds like you’re making excuses for your child’s behaviour. I’d also be willing to bet that your inner circle is now limited mostly to your self-proclaimed trauma mama friends… And your friends and family who’ve loved you for decades have taken great big steps away from you. Or you’ve banished them from your life for failing to follow your micromanaging borderline lunatic purvis inspired rules!

Gotta love having super-duped low expectations of your traumatized little darling — who will probably live right on down to them.

(Why yes, I spent most ofy childhood in foster care).

]]> By: Melissa https://www.thecorkboardonline.com/2013/03/through-the-eyes-of-a-traumatized-child/#comment-34725 Sat, 09 Mar 2013 15:30:30 +0000 http://www.thecorkums.com/?p=4617#comment-34725 In reply to sandra.

Sandra, re-post away 😀 I just ask that you link back here.
Melissa

]]> By: sandra https://www.thecorkboardonline.com/2013/03/through-the-eyes-of-a-traumatized-child/#comment-34697 Sat, 09 Mar 2013 13:54:08 +0000 http://www.thecorkums.com/?p=4617#comment-34697 may I re post this on my blog?

]]> By: Dawn https://www.thecorkboardonline.com/2013/03/through-the-eyes-of-a-traumatized-child/#comment-34688 Sat, 09 Mar 2013 13:19:58 +0000 http://www.thecorkums.com/?p=4617#comment-34688 Oh my goodness SO true!!!

]]> By: Holly https://www.thecorkboardonline.com/2013/03/through-the-eyes-of-a-traumatized-child/#comment-34322 Fri, 08 Mar 2013 22:23:02 +0000 http://www.thecorkums.com/?p=4617#comment-34322 The good news is that as you continue down this path, things will get better. We’ve been home with our daughter for 4.5yrs now… she was 6 at the time she came to us. The first two years were really hard… especially the first year. I was an emotional mess even though I was as prepared as I could be to handle our beautiful control freak spitfire! 😉 A great book is “Beyond Logic, Consequences & Control: A love based approach to parenting attachment challenged children with severe behaviors”

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