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Comments on: My take on the WRETCHED RAD Video https://www.thecorkboardonline.com/2015/03/my-take-on-the-wretched-rad-video/ Thu, 16 Nov 2017 22:44:48 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.5.8 By: Stephanie Bradshaw https://www.thecorkboardonline.com/2015/03/my-take-on-the-wretched-rad-video/#comment-311431 Thu, 16 Nov 2017 22:44:48 +0000 http://www.thecorkums.com/?p=6686#comment-311431 As a mother of three adopted children with RAD, I can say from my own experience, Todd is not making this up. His very direct information is very real and needed for people who think about adopting. We dealt with social services and a well meaning therapeutic foster care agency. We knew some about RAD and had training. We knew enough to request no RAD children. In the past 12 years we were given three.
Social Services did not honestly disclose information about the first two children. They said to us “No behavioral problems”. Being the people we are we could not re-home them. Plus we have an abnormally high tolerance. So we have gone through much hurt, and a twelve year nightmare.
Our third adoptee was different, From the beginning, a different Social Services office was very honest with us. They gave full disclosure. We adopted the third child only under the agreement that this agency would give us total support of services until she was eighteen. We knew what it takes to help these children and we knew we could not do this alone. We agreed only under those conditions to adopt. One year after the promise almost all services were taken away. The state would not even consider a 50 page report why we needed case management, There is more to this story.
To some Todd may come across strong. This is a ridiculous judgement. If you have gone through what we and many people we know go through every day risking the safety of their home, families, their health, their marriages and their own emotional and psychological health, you would not think he is he is coming across strong enough.
RAD is serious business.

]]> By: Melissa https://www.thecorkboardonline.com/2015/03/my-take-on-the-wretched-rad-video/#comment-253970 Sat, 21 Mar 2015 11:31:44 +0000 http://www.thecorkums.com/?p=6686#comment-253970 In reply to Namita.

Namita, For professionals not familiar with the effects of complex developmental trauma, they often pigeon hole our kids into the incorrect diagnosis. This chart may be helpful. http://come-over.to/FAS/PDF/OverlappingCharacteristics.pdf.

]]> By: Namita https://www.thecorkboardonline.com/2015/03/my-take-on-the-wretched-rad-video/#comment-253900 Sat, 21 Mar 2015 05:16:53 +0000 http://www.thecorkums.com/?p=6686#comment-253900 As I was attaching the video and then read your take on it, I too kept thinking that Todd has invisibly walked through our home. I have seen almost all the signs of RAD as listed by him. Our psychologist gave her a primary diagnosis of ADHD but not RAD. We are now ADHD meds. I am wondering if I should discuss RAD with the doctor and try EMDR and/or neurofeedback. Our kids have gone through a deep rooted psychological trauma. I am feeling such a sigh of relief knowing that there are others in the same boat as me. She is our only one and we love her to death. Hopefully she will understand this someday.

]]> By: Melissa https://www.thecorkboardonline.com/2015/03/my-take-on-the-wretched-rad-video/#comment-252010 Sun, 15 Mar 2015 00:00:35 +0000 http://www.thecorkums.com/?p=6686#comment-252010 In reply to Jenni.

Thanks, Jenni!

]]> By: Jenni https://www.thecorkboardonline.com/2015/03/my-take-on-the-wretched-rad-video/#comment-251993 Sat, 14 Mar 2015 20:30:03 +0000 http://www.thecorkums.com/?p=6686#comment-251993 Such great wisdom in your commentary. I watched the video when it was shared a lot, but couldn’t bring myself to endorse it. And I love that you bring up RAD as a spectrum. Not all children have every symptom and not every symptom is severe Thank you, I will share this article on FB rather then just the video!

]]> By: Melissa https://www.thecorkboardonline.com/2015/03/my-take-on-the-wretched-rad-video/#comment-250754 Tue, 10 Mar 2015 11:39:39 +0000 http://www.thecorkums.com/?p=6686#comment-250754 In reply to PJ.

We have a PJ at our house, too! We’ve also used EMDR. I’ve been looking into neurofeedback as well. Best wishes, Melissa.

]]> By: PJ https://www.thecorkboardonline.com/2015/03/my-take-on-the-wretched-rad-video/#comment-250740 Tue, 10 Mar 2015 09:19:05 +0000 http://www.thecorkums.com/?p=6686#comment-250740 Thank you for writing this response! So true for us – my DD does not have ALL of the symptoms he listed, but quite a few. Friends and family don’t see it because she is so charming with them. If I had known more, I still would not have been ‘prepared’ in the emotional sense. Not sure that it would be possible to truly prepare, except for having experience directly with it.

We have started EMDR therapy recently and are seeing amazing results with that. Neurofeedback is another therapy that is able to touch the areas of the brain that are inaccessible through normal ‘talk’ therapy. We’ve seen immediate, positive changes as a result…thank you again for being willing to talk about this openly!

]]> By: Melissa https://www.thecorkboardonline.com/2015/03/my-take-on-the-wretched-rad-video/#comment-249901 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 22:39:49 +0000 http://www.thecorkums.com/?p=6686#comment-249901 In reply to Mama Bear.

Your post was a good read as well!

]]> By: Melanie https://www.thecorkboardonline.com/2015/03/my-take-on-the-wretched-rad-video/#comment-249867 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 19:54:55 +0000 http://www.thecorkums.com/?p=6686#comment-249867 I wish my child did not have so many of the symptoms. It’s true that most adopted children will not get an official diagnosis of RAD, but they will display some to many of these symptoms at some point in the process. When professionals and well-meaning people downplay RAD and claim it is overused it hurts all adoptive families. It is also hard that our adopted children can only take tiny steps in healing, and the dreams of family bonding time, snuggled together watching movies, etc fall so far from reality b/c our adopted kids can only take affection in the tiniest of bits.

]]> By: Mama Bear https://www.thecorkboardonline.com/2015/03/my-take-on-the-wretched-rad-video/#comment-249866 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 19:52:38 +0000 http://www.thecorkums.com/?p=6686#comment-249866 I have some very similar feelings about the video and I blogged about it, too! I always find your posts so interesting and helpful. Thanks so much for all the great info you give!

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