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Comments on: Treat adoptive families like they have cancer https://www.thecorkboardonline.com/2017/03/treat-adoptive-families-like-cancer/ Wed, 02 Aug 2017 23:28:59 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.5.8 By: Melissa https://www.thecorkboardonline.com/2017/03/treat-adoptive-families-like-cancer/#comment-309055 Wed, 02 Aug 2017 23:28:59 +0000 http://www.thecorkums.com/?p=7794#comment-309055 In reply to Briana.

Yes! So many populations that are underserved.

]]> By: Briana https://www.thecorkboardonline.com/2017/03/treat-adoptive-families-like-cancer/#comment-309051 Wed, 02 Aug 2017 22:22:53 +0000 http://www.thecorkums.com/?p=7794#comment-309051 This is so good and yes, needful. I’d extend it beyond adoptive/foster families, too. Chronic health diagnoses and any family who has been thrust into either a prolonged season of being stretched or one going through a time of transition–even for positive things–are in need.

]]> By: Melissa https://www.thecorkboardonline.com/2017/03/treat-adoptive-families-like-cancer/#comment-306326 Tue, 09 May 2017 08:51:54 +0000 http://www.thecorkums.com/?p=7794#comment-306326 In reply to Dianne.

Dianne,
What great news that you are cancer free! And thanks for the encouraging words about fighting for our kids!

]]> By: Dianne https://www.thecorkboardonline.com/2017/03/treat-adoptive-families-like-cancer/#comment-306313 Tue, 09 May 2017 00:49:12 +0000 http://www.thecorkums.com/?p=7794#comment-306313 I have been a special needs teacher for over 30 years. I was diagnosed with cancer in July of 2014, although, praise Jesus,, I am now cancer free. I was very blessed not to cook a meal for 8 weeks after surgery. I don’t think this is the norm, however.

It is also not the norm for people to think of providing a meal for a special needs, foster or adoptive family. This type of blog is excellent in promoting such an idea,

Special needs kids have rights! When you take on that precious child , you are also taking on the responsibility to fight for those rights! If you can’t get what you want from the school system, get an advocate! You will instantly see the school scramble to meet your child’s needs! All schools hate advocates! Don’t stop until you get what you think your child needs! You are in charge! Don’t let any school system make you think less! You can do this!

]]> By: Melissa https://www.thecorkboardonline.com/2017/03/treat-adoptive-families-like-cancer/#comment-305704 Sat, 22 Apr 2017 18:41:01 +0000 http://www.thecorkums.com/?p=7794#comment-305704 In reply to Denise.

Hugs and prayers for you, Denise!

]]> By: Denise https://www.thecorkboardonline.com/2017/03/treat-adoptive-families-like-cancer/#comment-305701 Sat, 22 Apr 2017 17:12:36 +0000 http://www.thecorkums.com/?p=7794#comment-305701 This would have changed my life! My children (3) came home almost 12 years ago and it has not been easy at all and it has been incredibly lonely! Our story is long, painful and disappointing due to one child with diagnosed FASD and three who struggle in their own ways with RAD. I have felt like a leper during these past years…very few people truly understand (or really want to understand) our reality. Thank you for putting this into words.

]]> By: Melissa https://www.thecorkboardonline.com/2017/03/treat-adoptive-families-like-cancer/#comment-305295 Sun, 09 Apr 2017 13:25:47 +0000 http://www.thecorkums.com/?p=7794#comment-305295 In reply to Karen Rice.

Karen,
It makes my heart so happy to know that church has been your safe place! I can feel my blood pressure rising, though, about your school situation.
Thanks for stopping by!

]]> By: Karen Rice https://www.thecorkboardonline.com/2017/03/treat-adoptive-families-like-cancer/#comment-305260 Sat, 08 Apr 2017 19:06:55 +0000 http://www.thecorkums.com/?p=7794#comment-305260 Wow! Did you hit the nail on the head. It is so hard to ask for help when we seem critical of our seemingly kind, thoughtful, charming child. He does only give it to us, or when he lies, we are the only ones who know.
Our adopted son (we took him in when he was 10 1/2 yrs.) was diagnosed as being “on the spectrum” for FASD and had ADHD, and we tried to get him accomodations at his school and were basically scorned and treated like we were uneducated people looking for a free handout. I have a masters degree in elementary education and am a reading specialist as well as a B.S. in Education with a Specialization in Special Learning Needs, by the way. Our input was ignored or seen as a nuisance, and they were only interested in proving that he was capable in class. I tried to let them know how much support he needs at home to pass his classes, and was basically told, “That is the job of a good parent.” As you stated, they are so good at charming the outside world, and teachers and schools are such a part of that. When we wanted supervision for him on field trips we were told, “We are trying to foster independence at this age (he is 16 now with a maturity of a 3-9 yr. old often).”
However, we have had support and understanding from most of our Christian church. They believe us, for the most part (there was one family that was difficult, but they have their own problems) help us out. They offer to take him places and listen when we need to talk. They help train up our child in the way he should go and he has gained much from them. I am sorry your church wasn’t the same. Maybe it’s time to look for new church.
Karen

]]> By: Melissa https://www.thecorkboardonline.com/2017/03/treat-adoptive-families-like-cancer/#comment-305089 Mon, 03 Apr 2017 22:10:47 +0000 http://www.thecorkums.com/?p=7794#comment-305089 In reply to sherri.

Sherri,
So sorry. Praying for you.

]]> By: Melissa https://www.thecorkboardonline.com/2017/03/treat-adoptive-families-like-cancer/#comment-304946 Fri, 31 Mar 2017 22:24:41 +0000 http://www.thecorkums.com/?p=7794#comment-304946 In reply to Anna.

Anna,

Thanks for sharing. I wish I could take away the pain and hurt from the brokenness. It breaks my heart when I hear stories of the church treating families that way. We have a child who has what I believe is undiagnosed FASD. I feel your pain! It’s such a challenging road.

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