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13 Practical Ways to Increase Felt Safety

Lack of felt safety is one of the five reasons kids misbehave. So what is felt safety? Our nervous systems have an instinct called “neuroception.” This is how we unconsciously distinguish whether situations or people are safe, dangerous, or life-threatening. When our kids have experienced chronic stress or have differences in their brain function, like […]

sibling conflict

4 Secrets to Improving Sibling Relationships

One of the most mentioned challenges parents write to me about is sibling conflict. “I wind up yelling at everyone at some point in the day after hours of bickering & fighting.” “There is constant sibling conflict.” “I want everyone to feel safe so the sibling fights will just stop!” I get it. Growing up […]

How to Change the Way Your Child Reacts to Not Getting Their Way

When you ask your child to do something he doesn’t want to do or tell him “NO,” what happens? Before we had these tools, our kids go-to was talking back or throwing a tantrum or worse! Have you heard of re-dos, compromises, and delayed or conditional “Yesses”? Re-dos gives our children chances to try again […]