A Letter to Trauma

Dear Trauma,

I’ll have to admit, you took us by surprise. You caught us off guard. It’s a pretty clever disguise you have–“pretty” is the wrong word. Don’t take this the wrong way, but you are probably the ugliest thing we have ever encountered.

Anyway, we’re on to you, and we’re here to help you change your ways.

When you feel the need to steal, we’ll be here to remind you words are a more effective way to meet your needs–and we will always meet your needs. Our sincere apologies in advance for when we do something to make you feel otherwise. We’ll learn together.

When you feel the need to lie, we’ll go searching for the truth together. We won’t hold it against you. We know your reality may be to much to handle on your own, but remember, we are in this together.

When you feel so insecure that you turn mean and nasty to feel in control, we’ll help you with kindness and unconditional love. We’ll share some of our control to prove that we’re trustworthy. That should kick that nastiness in the butt.

When you are loud and active and obnoxious, We’ll do our best to find an activity that organizes all that sensory input (or lack thereof) so you can find your calm, contented place.

When you just can’t seem to learn one more concept or memorize one more fact, we’ll give you some space. When you are Trust instead of Trauma, we’ll try again. Trust will have a much better ability to learn.

The road to your new identity will be bumpy but let’s keep our eyes on the cross–our reminder that all things (even you) may be made new. Sometimes you’ll be able to fool us, but with God’s help, we’ll trudge on together as He leads.

 

Sincerely,

The Corkum Family

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3 Comments

  1. Oh trauma. So fun. My 9 year old spends half of his day throwing fear based toddler tantrums, and the other half refusing to do every single thing I ask him to do. But only me. He listens to his dad and teachers no problem.
    Eye roll.

  2. praying for you right now, friend, that God will give persevering grace to you and Patrick and the entire family to see BIG changes in a SHORT amount of time. May the Redeemer show Himself once again Stronger than any other strong force.

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