The problem with using essential oils for challenging kids

When I first heard of using essential oils for mood and emotions management for kids from hard places, I set out to try as many oils on my kids as possible. I was looking for that magic fix. Quite frankly, I didn’t care if they were on board. When you’re desperate, you’ll beg, negotiate, plead, and just downright manipulate to get your child to try the next “thing.”

Our list of “things” (outside of the basic principles of trust-based parenting) has included diet, mindfulness, massage, oils, supplements, and medication.

Do you want to know the problem with using essential oils for challenging kids?

Just because you want them to work so bad, they will want NOTHING to do with them.

Do you want to know the secret about kids from hard places?

Their needs are complex and there’s no magic fix.

Tatoo it to your forehead. “There’s NO MAGIC FIX.”

Just because you want to try it, they will probably dig their feet in and hate it. Just because. And honestly, getting into a control battle with a kid to do something…even if it’s their magic fix…automatically makes it NOT the magic fix.

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P.S. I’m preaching this to myself because I’m the control queen and the queen of burning relationship bridges with my kids because I am trying to force a fix. Learn from my mistakes. Don’t be me.

However, despite the fact that oils weren’t the magic fix I was looking for, they were a magic fix for somebody else…me.

When I’d be chasing the kids around with a balancing blend, I realized, I wanted to smell it. I could feel the oils calming me down and helping me to access my other coping tools.

BONUS: Click HERE for an entire e-book on the science behind why oils work to manage our emotions. It’s really NOT all in your head…or is it?

I’ve said it before, and it’s worth saying again. “I cannot change my child, but I can change me…”

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We can only control ourselves.

And while that seems anti-climactic, research on mirror neurons tell us that if we’re calm, our kids can calm by mirroring the calm in us.

What would happen if we had more tools as tired mamas to energize us, calm us, and literally manage our emotions from the inside out?

  1. Less frustration.
  2. More organization.
  3. Less overwhelm.
  4. More empowerment.
  5. More connection.

My favorite way to have oils at my disposal all day long is diffuser jewelry. Essential Charms recently sent me a diffuser bracelet to review.

diffuser bracelet review lavla beads


The “Ancient Agate” diffuser bracelet is handmade with premium, semi-precious 12mm Decorative Pattern Agate stones, 3 beige lava stones and a custom stainless steel cube.

Agate is known for its slow and steady healing properties and is said to bring harmony and balance to body, mind and spirit. Like lava stone, it has a grounding energy and will bring you strength and stability in times of need.

I asked for the small size and was pleasantly surprised when it actually fit my tiny wrists!


How do I use diffuser jewelry with essential oils?

Just add a drop or two of your favorite oil to the porous lava beads. Give it a couple minutes to soak in so the oil won’t rub off of the beads and leave a mark on your sleeve. If that happens, just use this nifty stain roller and it will come right out.

Which oils do you recommend?

I recommend using the emotional aromatherapy wheel to choose your blend. We use the oils from doTERRA’s emotional aromatherapy kit everyday. If you’d like to know more about why I love these specific oils for weary mamas, contact me. I’d love to chat more. Just contact me.

How long will the aroma last?

Depending on the oil a couple hours to a full day.

Can I use a different oil each day?

Yes! You can use a different oil each time you add oils to your bracelet.

Where can I buy diffuser jewelry?

Essential Charms has kindly offered a discount for you awesome mamas. Just use the code CORK15 at check out for 15% your purchase. Essential Charms offers a wide variety of precious stone bracelets and diffuser charms for necklaces.

I’m parenting a challenging child a feel hopeless. What else can I do?

Join my FB parenting support group called Essentially Connected Parenting. My goal is to help you find hope again!

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I received a free product in exchange for this post. However, I was using diffuser jewelry long before receiving a freebie and would still recommend it even without compensation. This post also contains affiliate links and I may be compensated if you make a purchase after clicking on my links. 

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