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An Open Letter to Trauma

A lot of moms (myself included) start to see their child as the adversary when bad behavior persists. One of the most helpful visuals that I learned when becoming a parent trainer was to stay on the same side as your child. Instead of imagining you against your child and his aggression, think about you […]

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2 Easy Ways to Increase Patience and Focus

If you’re anything like me, you get to the end of the day and feel like all you did was yell at kids. Most of the items on your to-do list remain unchecked. You wish you had more patience, and you wish you could focus enough to accomplish something. Anything. I also have a child […]

11 Breakthrough Solutions for Struggling Kids

Before parenting children with challenges, I had a pretty bare toolbox. The learning curve after our first adoption was steep. During our journey, we’ve researched and learned a lot. It started with some simple parenting shifts. Then we learned that there is a fascinating mind-body connection. This opened a world of other things to try. […]

The Best Ways for Connecting through Play

“Play is our brain’s favorite way of learning.” -Diane Ackerman For children with attachment disorders, hugs and affection may cause acting out. Play can be a non-threatening way to build connection and teach trust. Try doing one of these activities at the same time every day so it becomes part of your routine. Give your child some […]

A Birthmother’s Surprising Journey of the Heart

There are three words that, when uttered together, make dreams come true for millions of women. For millions more, those same words can shatter their dreams.  “You are pregnant.”   Almost half of all pregnancies in the United States — some 3.1 million each year —are unintended. Among unmarried women in their 20s, seven out […]

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5 Bedtime Routines for Children Who Have Trouble Sleeping

You’ve survived until the end of the day, and you just want your kid to GO. TO. BED. Dealing with a child who has trouble sleeping can make a mean mommy out of even the most patient saints. I find that a lot of kids have trouble at bedtime due to some underlying anxiety. Usually, […]

How to Survive When It’s Really Hard

Adoptive and foster families often find themselves barely functioning and just trying to survive when caring for children with hard behaviors. I just finished hanging out in Nehemiah (as in the book of the Bible) with the She Reads Truth community. Nehemiah was the guy who rebuilt the temple after it was destroyed by the […]

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How to find post adoption support

A lot of adoptive moms tell me that they’d do anything for their kids, but they don’t know where to start or what to do. They are tirelessly seeking out post adoption support and resources and coming up empty handed. Unfortunately, there is a HUGE gap in post adoption support. We’ve felt it personally. I’m […]