What not to do in older child adoption

Our journey to and through trust-based parenting has been one mostly in the trenches. That’s the fancy way of saying we learned what we know the hard way. Here are my top 10 mistakes: Do not dis your child’s country of origin…ever. Or at least not until they develop a sense of humor. We adore […]

Guest Post on Perspective

We’re in the middle of a rather snowy Mid-Atlantic winter. My Facebook feed is cluttered with curses for winter. The ironic thing is that in roughly 4 months the same folks who were waving a white flag for no more snow will be bemoaning the 3-digit temperatures. The truth is that we live in a […]

What I want you to know

You need to know that kids from hard places frequently find themselves in fight, flight, or freeze mode. You need to know some always go to fight. You need to know that these children create hell on earth for some families. You need to know that these children, when triggered, hit, kick, bite, throw things, […]

James 1:27 Blog Carnival | 21st Edition

Welcome to the 21st edition of james 127 blog carnival. Robin Bremer presents God’s AWESOME love toward you. He is not mad at you! posted at www.RobinBremer.net. Allison presents Foster Virtuous Hearts – Love posted at Schumm Explosion, saying, “Looking to help your child from a hard place develop a virtuous heart? Here is the […]

Orphan Care Blog Carnival | 20th Edition

Welcome to the 20th posting of the carnival. It’s gotten a little facelift and slightly expanded topic range to include not just adoption but also orphan and widow care. You can read this week’s round up here. As you visit each blog, be sure to leave some comment love. Then share via your social media […]

Grain of Salt

It’s a good thing I love salt. Having teenagers is one thing. Having traumatized teenagers is…special. You should never take them too seriously. These pairs of quotes came from the same child’s mouth within minutes (or at most hours).   This summer is not fun like last summer. I thought we were going to do […]

{Christmas} A Thank You

In early December, I sent out a message that read: It’s a tradition for Melissa’s parents to get an ornament for the kids every year. The missing ornaments from past years for John, Kayla, Grace, and Ty really stir up a lot of grief and sabotage their sense of belonging. We’ve decided to fix it! […]

Adoption Blog Carnival | 13th Edition

Welcome to the 13th posting of the carnival. You can read this week’s round up here. As you visit each blog, be sure to leave some comment love. Then share via your social media outlet of choice using the hashtag #adoptionblogcarnival. If you would like to submit a post for next week, you can do […]